How To Gain Control of Your Own Thoughts

How To Gain Control of Your Own Thoughts












Quite often we find ourselves with many negative thoughts going
through our mind. These trains of thoughts can become very powerful as
we endlessly repeat them in our mind. The problem is that that the more
we focus on the thoughts, the more powerful they become. Therefore, it
can become very difficult to stop these endless cycles of thoughts.
However, it is definitely possible and these are a few tips to control our thoughts.
1. Make a conscious decision to Stop the thoughts
The problem is that sometimes we attach ourselves to certain ideas
and problems, and we subconsciously get a kind of pleasure from going
through a certain problem / issue. If we subconsciously keep inviting
the thoughts, we will never be able to stop them. Therefore, the first
stage is to make a clear and conscious decision to stop the repetition
of the thoughts. Be aware of their negative impact and don’t allow them
to come any more. This conscious step is an indispensable stage in
controlling our thoughts.
2. Look upon the Thoughts as being Outside of yourself.
When we first try to stop the thoughts, it seems very difficult
because they feel such a strong part of our mind. Therefore, the second
stage is to feel that the thoughts are separate to our self. When a
thought appears in your mind, look upon the thought as coming from
outside yourself. This is a very powerful way to reduce the impact of
thoughts on our mind. Once we realise our thoughts are separate to
ourselves it becomes possible to stop them.
3. Who is it who listens to thoughts?
This is a technique to try and discover the origination of your
thoughts. Whenever a thought appears, just ask yourself, who is it who
is thinking this? What we do is to try and discover the source of
thoughts. Through asking this question we realise that there is an “I”
which can decide to accept or reject thoughts. By asking this question
we will be able to stop the thoughts as soon as they enter. You are not
a victim of your own thoughts, it is you who either rejects or gives
life to thoughts.
4. Catch thoughts as soon as they appear.
This exercise requires a determined effort on our part. We need to
be vigilant and watch every thought that enters our mind. As soon as we
see a negative thought enter, we must immediately discard it and refuse
to follow it. The more we follow thoughts, the more difficult it
becomes to stop them later. Therefore, it is best to catch them as soon
as possible.

5. Concentrate on Something else.
If we have a train of thoughts which have gained a stranglehold over
our mind, the best solution is often to just try and do something
completely different. Don’t just sit around, go and do something which
gives you no opportunity to ruminate over your thoughts. By doing this
we ignore the thoughts completely, and they lose there hold over us.
<blockquote>“Wrong thoughts are inside us just because we identify
ourselves with these thoughts. If we identify with something else,
immediately they have to leave us.”</blockquote>
- Sri Chinmoy [1]
6. Meditation
Meditation is the best way to learn how to control our thoughts.
Meditation involves the art of concentration and quietening the mind.
In meditation we not only try to control our thoughts but we also can
bring to the fore our inner qualities of peace and oneness. If we can
invoke the calming power of our own heart, then we use an alternative
force to take the place of the negative mind.
<blockquote>“The mind has its own power, and right now this power is
stronger than your present eagerness and determination to meditate. But
if you can get help from your heart, then gradually you will be able to
control your mind. The heart, in turn, gets constant assistance from
the soul, which is all light and all power.”</blockquote>
- Sri Chinmoy [2]
We should meditate every day so that we can bring to the fore as
much as peace as possible into our mind. If we only meditate when we
are overrun with thoughts, we will find meditation very difficult. But,
if we gain peace of mind through our daily meditation then we develop
our inner capacities to control our thoughts.