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About Love - Scientific Answers
by شجون Sat Oct 23, 2010 7:16 am
About Love - Scientific Answers
About Love - Scientific Answers
Researchers (Hatfield &
Rapson, 1995) have broken up love into two main types:
- Passionate love
which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also
involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions. - Companionate love
is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.
Now one of the best known
theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact)
is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.
The three components of the
Triangular Theory of Love are:
Passion, the
feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.
Passion is what makes you feel
"in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises
quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.
Intimacy, the
feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and
very good communications over time).
Intimacy is what makes you want
to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.
Commitment,
pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love
and to actively maintain the relationship.
Commitment is what makes you want
to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for
the other person if things get tough.
Now Sternberg also uses his
Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked
questions about love:
Is there love at first
sight?
This is when we are overwhelmed
by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take
time). Sternberg calls thisinfatuated love, Because
there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade
away.
Why do some people get
married after being in love for a very short time?
This is a combination of passion
and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood
love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on
their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship
most likely will end.
Can their be love without
sex?
Ah yes, companionate love, where
intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.
Why doesn't romantic love
last?
Passion and intimacy without
commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy
wanes, the relationship ends.
This a close friend sent
me e-mail:
Infatuation vs. Love
Infatuation is instant desire -
one set of glands calling to another.
Love is friendship that has
caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.
[b]Infatuation is marked by a
feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely
happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and
pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too
closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding
and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength
and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their
presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have
so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But
near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get
married right away. I can't risk losing them."
Love says, "Be patient. Don't
panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of
sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in
intimacy.
Love is not based on sex. It is
the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must
be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence.
When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.
Love means trust. You are calm,
secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even
more trustworthy.
Infatuation might lead you to do
things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong
direction.
ove is an upper. It makes you
feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your
heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It
makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before.
If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things
you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is
has a lot less meaning.
The secret of our being is not
only to live but to have something to live for.
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